Dear Lovebirds

 A LETTER TO LOVEBIRDS

Dear lovebirds,

Just like drugs ,love has the power to build or destroy. Kings are no exception.

One ironical thing is how everyone defines their love language. For Melisa," the real lover is one who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smile into your eyes till your stare into space"

Is love your willingness to become a better person for your lover?

Andrew argues that love can be a gift, but only a deserved one.

it is easier to treat love as a dream, not reality. When most of us think about love, we imagine lovely pictures of romantic kisses, exciting adventures and honest laughter ( living happily ever after). Why do we forget the ugly scenes behind these nice images? The tears! The fights and broken hearts? The answer is simple- we don't want to

No matter how good things may look, we should agree that love isn't a gift of fate. It is a complex. Love is work! A fragile structure built on trust, mutual understanding and respect.

 The Nyenzes say humor had been their basic love language. Anne, for instance, says "Dark humor and intelligence kept us moving. Our ability to sit down and solve things casually and as quick as possible make us a power couple."

Dan, however says "We sometimes accept we are not always in the right mood for conversations. Breaks become necessary at this point, but even a short breathe of fresh air has to be communicated."

"All lovebirds must therefore be ready to learn, there's no script on how someone should love their partner. It's purely on them. You just find what works for you and ride with it" Ruth, who has been married for 40 years, says.

One key lesson to note is, whatever sounds like an irreducible minimum to you might be a normal thing to someone else. Reds flags during talking stages must never be ignored. If you don't communicate them, you better be ready to tolerate them.

One thing I've discovered is, we tend to be in love with the person that excites the mind. The reality becomes a major task because this person isn't who you potentially made them out to be in your mind. Creating a personality that would favor you is a good idea, but are you ready to live people for who they are and not who you wished they were?

@AnotherKenyan